Sometimes it’s not just the grandchildren your parents want to connect with – they may like some time with you too! Yes, they know you are there for them in a crisis; but once in a while, it’s good to just have a chat, pass the time of day, do something together…
- Make it a point to call them up at least once a week, and don’t be in a hurry to rush through to the end of the conversation.
- Send a thoughtful gift every once in a while – even if there’s no occasion or festival.
- Take time to visit in person. If your parents live far away, try and organize at least an annual visit during a special festival.
- When you do visit, make it a point to do things with your parents, rather than staying out all day with friends: It could be just spending time in the garden admiring your mother’s plants over tea; or it could be listening to old records with your father.
- Where, when and how depend on your specific situation, but it’s a good idea to arrange surprise holidays for your parents. Take care to choose a place they would enjoy – your idea (or your children’s) of a perfect vacation may be their idea of mayhem!
- Don’t forget their special days – such as birthdays and marriage anniversaries – now that you have a family of your own to tend. At least cal, even if you can’t be there in person or forget to send them a gift or a card.
